On being nice…

One of my Facebook friends posted an article from Mic.com that quoted the Milgram experiments from the 60s. If you are unfamiliar with his work, here’s a quote from the article that describes it. “In 1961, curious about a person’s willingness to obey an authority figure, social psychologist Stanley Milgram began trials on his now-famous experiment. In it, he tested how far a subject would go electrically shocking a stranger (actually an actor faking the pain) simply because they were following orders. Some subjects, Milgram found, would follow directives until the person was dead.”

The article goes on to suggest, and I am paraphrasing, that kind people are the ones most likely to carry out the evil doings of the psychopaths of the world. They blame it on being nice.


My whole spiritual path is surrounded around compassion and love. I know that there are some that see the effort as phoney, unrealistic, bullshit, (fill in the blank… ) and to be certain it is a practice. It is not my normal usual cynical, skeptical, rebellious state. It is practiced.
Sometimes by the minute.

Let’s be clear. Being “nice” is not the issue here.
Being passive is. Being undefined about your moral stance is. Being undefined about what you believe is. Being unclear what is right and wrong is. Being unable to say no is. Being undefined what justice is. Being unclear what you’re willing to die for is.

But being decidedly loving and kind is not a personality defect.
It’s what will save you.
And the world.

You can read the full article here if you’re so inclined.

Namaste, my friends.



About PamelaDevine

Pamela Devine is a singer songwriter, fine artist, and filmmaker. View all posts by PamelaDevine

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